Here, you see pictured Jane Mansfield in one of the few pictures where she is modest. Before there was ever a Marilyn Monroe or a Sophia Loren, there was Jane. While women in Hollywood today do indeed pursue implant after implant, there are few who would seek the extent that some women are endowed with naturally.
That being delicately said, women who are not so well endowed often overlook the problems associated with it. It can mean a lot of back pain, a compromised posture as you slouch to hide your chest, and many hurtful comments by men and women who haven’t enough tact.
Often, women in this predicament, who want to be godly, opt for overly baggy clothes to hide their shape and stem some of the criticism. But…that’s just what you shouldn’t do.
I am, by no means, saying that you should be immodest or flaunt yourself indecently. I
amsaying, however, that there is a beautiful method of dressing for even you that cannot possibly be criticized. You just need a few pointers!
For beginners, notice the way you carry yourself and the way you walk. I have often seen women—even those not so well endowed—walk in a way reminiscent of junior high with a jolly spring in their step…and bounce in the chest! Not so good if you’re trying to be modest.
You are a lady; be graceful when you walk. A little movement is natural and can’t be helped; you can’t exactly duck tape yourself! Just be aware.
One time that will garner sneers is when you worship. Due to hurtful things said in
my past, I have battled having the freedom to worship so I know that some comments can really hurt. I want to spare you that humiliation and pain.
If you are going to run and dance in the aisles, a simple technique to keep you modest is to hold your arms across your chest as I do. I have often seen women who wouldn’t be caught dead in immodest clothing forget themselves in worship, flailing their arms—and other objects—about as they danced.
While it is certainly true that men in our congregations should have their mind—and eyes—on the Lord during service, Satan uses the smallest flubs to get a foothold when he can. And in your heart of hearts, you don’t want to be a stumbling block for a brother in the Lord you care for nor a hurtful comparison for another sister with marriage problems. Easy fix? Just take care to hold yourself accountable in dress and in movement.
As for clothing, here are some great tips!
Flattering Choices:
Single-breasted jackets or suits work well!
Hip belts add balance while hip length jackets create a solid color block to smooth your figure.
V-necks can be flattering as long as the cami beneath is high enough to cover your cleavage. Tip: Check from the side view! I sometimes even shock myself with this little trick. I will think I'm covered well but looking from the side reveals the curves!
Untucked shirts always! Tucking isn't a good technique for any body shape really!
Pumps! Lengthen your legs with heels! Heels have a way of elongating and slimming your figure all the way up!
Less Flattering Choices:
No baby-doll dresses! They obstruct the fact that you have a waist!
No bustier-style clothing or tight t-shirts (especially those with wording on them); it is simply in bad taste and takes the mind where it shouldn't go. Do you really want
every dirty old man to be checking out your top half? Ew!
Double-breasted jackets, big pockets, and thick sweaters add bulk and not in a flattering way! Steer clear!
No uni-bras! Choose a bra that fits you, meaning a bra that doesn't push you up where you're bulging out with one big roll, creating lumps! Smooth is attractive so you might have to buy a size larger in the bra department to ensure a smooth curve between your back and the bra line!
